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10 Ways to be Happier

We live in a stressful, anxiety-ridden world. I get it. I have plenty of bad days, but I’ve been able to find ways to make myself happy and not let my bad vibes ruin my day or other people’s.

1. Do things that make you feel good. When I’m feeling down, a few things help me start feeling a bit better. I like to hang out and start joking with my boyfriend, make a delicious cocktail, find pretty things to look at on Instagram, or read my blog comments. Whether it’s calling your best friend, dancing ridiculously in your living room or watching Netflix, when you feel crappy you really need to find what it is that will make you feel better and do it. At least until you feel a little better, and can continue on with your day.

2. Perspective. Perspective. Perspective. I say this in every single inspirational post I write, because life is really all about perspective. This is something I have a hard time remembering myself, and it’s something my boyfriend has taught me over the years. Sure, I can choose to be in a bad mood and be grumpy but why am I truly grumpy? Because I got an annoying email? Because I have a mosquito bite? REALLY? There are people in the world that don’t have food or water, and I’m bitching about a mosquito bite or the fact that my nail polish is chipped? That’s when I have to tell myself to get a grip. Perspective is about taking your feelings and weighing it into the grand scheme of things, in order to realize that perhaps what you’re grumpy about is in fact, not a big deal at all.

3. Don’t go to bed angry. I’ve learned this one over the years, because if I’m all wound up and feeling crappy, chances are I’ll wake up in the middle of the night because I can’t sleep. OR I take the bad energy into the next day. Anytime I’ve gone to bed angry or upset, I usually wake up at 3 or 4 in the morning, can’t go back to sleep and decide to get up. This makes me so sluggish during the day and it’s just not worth it. Handle the emotions and problems before getting a good night’s rest. You’ll sleep better and you can truly start the next day fresh.

4. Fake it until you make it. Pretending to be happy and pretending to be in a good mood helps, because after 30 minutes of pretending you’re going to realize things are fine and you’re okay. This one is pretty self-explanatory, but remember that even if you’re feeling bad, pretend you’re not and in a little while you may even forget what annoyed or made you grumpy in the first place.

5. Make sure to move your body. Everyone says exercise is one of the best things for the brain, body and spirit. I agree with this, and I remember when I was actively doing cross country and track, I always felt good. I was far less angry, less grumpy and less moody back in the day. I know it’s hard to find time to work out, but doing even a little bit of it will make you feel better. I’ve opted for walking around my building for 15-20 minutes a few times a day, and even that helps get me outside and just moving. Exercise also helps to get the negative vibes out, because the endorphins will kick in and you’ll feel great whether you work out in the morning or night!

6. Do something about it. If something is not making you happy, then you need to figure out how to change the situation. If you’re unhappy with your relationship, fix it. If you’re unhappy at work, figure out how you can be happy or start looking for a new job. Lots of times we feel like prisoners, but we have control over our happiness. It’s either fixing perspective, altering the situation or removing yourself from the situation. Do something about what makes you unhappy so you can be happy.

7. Sleep. Self-explanatory but not sleeping makes me incredibly cranky and many studies have shown that sleep helps with overall happiness. I sleep 6-7 hours a night (minimum) and can’t imagine people who regularly get 3-4 hours a NIGHT. I can’t function on such few hours of sleep and I easily get sick, feel sluggish and gain weight. So I sleep.

8. Money can’t buy happiness. So cliche, but true. If you buy a Chanel purse, yes it’ll be exciting and amazing, but it’s not going to fix whatever it is that’s making you unhappy. No point in masking emotions, by thinking monetary things will fix it. We’ve all seen celebrities go down, and it ain’t pretty. Money makes people comfortable with life, but it does not buy happiness. Happiness is within us and we need to work at it over time.

9. Go on vacation. …well shit maybe money can buy happiness since money buys vacations? But seriously we all love vacations, and after working with a few international clients for my day job, I’ve noticed that other countries are doing “holidays” so much better than the US. We do not get nearly enough vacation days, and many of us don’t even take our paid time off! If you have the means to take a vacation, unplug from work, then by all means go enjoy the Bahamas for a week. Spending quality time with your family or friends will boost happiness and the relaxation will feel so good. You deserve it!


10. Be satisfied. There’s several journals and ways to document things that you are thankful for and things that make you happy each day (5 Minute Journal for instance) and I do believe it’s important to remind yourself of all the reasons you have to be happy. Be thankful for your significant other. Be thankful for your job, the food on the table, your loved ones, your friends, your health. The list goes on and on. Keep reminding yourself that you have more to be happy about, then you have to be unhappy with. Perspective baby.

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So tell me, what makes you happy? What things do you do that make you feel better? I’d love to hear your thoughts and experiences in the comments below.

Mural: This mural is located in downtown Tucson area, and is located on the west side of the building that houses the Tucson Warehouse and Transfer Co. This mural is part of the Tucson Arts Brigade movement.

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Totally agree with and love all of these. I struggle, however, with “Don’t go to bed angry” when people give that advice. I 100% agree with everything you said about it and think if there’s a way to get something resolved or just get something off your shoulders before bed, yes, do it. On the flip side, I also think there are situations where something isn’t going to be resolved in an evening or addressing the situation while you’re angry will make things worse. In those cases, I really think it’s good to learn to compartmentalize or let things go for a period of time and come back to them, which is really hard for anyone, I know!

Thank you so much for the kind words Daria, as that means so much to me! I felt a little bit like a fashionista in this beautiful dress, and I made sure the wall matched it perfectly 😉 xx

I’m so glad it was able to help you even a little bit Jac, as that is one of the reasons I love sharing my story and my experiences. I hope you start to feel better soon, but know that my snapchats & videos are also around for you to giggle and laugh at from time to time 😉 xx

Anytime babes! I suffer from anxiety too, and I wake up in the middle of the night worried about the most ridiculous things, and then have trouble falling back asleep because I’m thinking of everything I need to do. It’s a horrible thing, but I hear ya when it comes to anxiety. I turn into a blob when I’m anxious, and I can’t seem to function properly! xx

I beg to differ when it comes to the fashion piece, but I totally appreciate your comment. I follow a lot of fashionistas and great fashion blogs, so I’m slowly learning how to dress myself…at 25 HA! 😉 xx

Sleep is the best, and I love a good ole nap. Naps are honestly so amazing, especially on the weekends or after work. Whatever works 😉 xx

These are really great tips that I definitely agree with! Sometimes life isn’t what happens to you–it’s how you react to it. It’s hard to keep that in mind but your tips are so helpful with that!

Yes, I’ve learned that reaction is most of the battle when it comes down to it. Shit happens, but depending on how you respond to it, determines what kind of person you are! xx

Thanks so much Abby! My friend cleaned out her closet & gave this dress to me because it was too short for her (she’s tall) so this dress worked out PERFECTLY for me, and I’m so glad I researched and found this mural that works perfectly with the colors xx

Write down 10 things you are grateful for everyday and they have to be different. Go give some service to someone else. Bake them some cookies and give to neighbors.

I love this idea, and WOW 10 things is definitely a lot! I don’t know if I could come up with 10 NEW things every single day. Most of them would be around the same type of thing, so I feel like I’d be cheating, but this would really FORCE you to find things to be especially thankful for. No doubt about that! xx

YES! Same here, because when I’m angry or grumpy or super annoyed, I will say things that I normally wouldn’t so I have to remove myself from the situation so that doesn’t happen you know? xx

Amanda, your comment is amazing! Thank you so much for the kind words as I really appreciate them and I’m so glad you think this outfit is pretty. Especially coming from such a fashionable lady like yourself! xx

i like ‘going on vacation’ best lol. theres always an excuse to get away! great post! xoxo // Stefanie // According to Blaire

These are all so good. I need to read that book the Happiness Project. I think it covers a lot of these ides! Well done.

I couldn’t agree more. Sleep makes a really big difference in my day and the ability to stay happy despite what life throws my way! Also, not going to bed angry and trying to work it out with my spouse or a friend really helps start the next day on a positive note.

What an awesome list of ways to stay happy. I’m one of those fake it till you make it people. Even if I’m upset, I like to act happy. I don’t try to ignore the problem, but getting upset never fixes anything, so I try to stay positive and get through the moment. Also, that mural is stunning!!

Love your list! I do Yoga/Mediate and/or play with my dog or take him for a walk. Just anything to get my mind off of it and to put everything into “perspective”! 😉 Tal xo

although I love your insight on all these points, the one that i can relate to is never going to bed feeling angry, its so bad energy. going out for a jogg or scrolling through pinterest usually takes my mind of the negative stuff as well 😉

x Have a great Friday!
♥ Josune @ Your Beauty Script

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Aaaahhhhh I love that one of your tips involves people taking responsibility for their own happiness and doing something about it. So many people think “happiness” is some destination that they’ll eventually get to if X, Y, and Z, when in reality they can have it NOW if they just work at it!

#3 is definitely my favorite, I tell my boyfriend this ALL the time! It helps us work out any unresolved issues and start the next day fresh!

This wall!!!!! Wow, how absolutely gorgeous-and I am totally in love with the dress!
Onto the post though, so IMPORTANT! Not going to bed angry is something I’ve recently learned myself. It’s something I’d always heard growing up, but never really thought into. But, if I go to bed upset, I sleep like absolute CRAP. These are really some amazing tips that I need to take to heart. Thanks so much for sharing <3